Thursday, November 13, 2014


Oh. Where do I, where should I, begin?

I think that I'd like to start by thanking everyone who took moments away from their precious day to read my previous post. It does not matter if you loved it or hated it; it was simply an expression of the heart and I accept with grace both well-wishes and criticisms. 

This isn't going to be a long post. Just some afterthoughts now that the air has cleared, the dust has settled. 

Afterthought 1: Its slightly uncomfortable.

Honestly, I had no idea the article would explode to such a degree. While I thank you all for sharing it and wishing us the best (or the worst), it really fills us with strength. However, it's slightly disconcerting to have the people cheering for us right now- that was not really part of the plan. It was never really in the grand design's blueprint to have people rooting for us and the weight of society's expectations looming heavily on our relationship. Honestly, we are making it up as we go along and each day holds new surprises and challenged. Which brings me to...

Afterthought 2: We are not an "ideal" couple.

Not by any means, not by any measure. We fight, we say things to each other that we regret immediately as they leave the tip of our tongues and we hurt. To all those currently facing LDR with us, please keep in mind that it is tough.

"The road is long, we carry on, try to have fun in the mean time."

To all those going through what we are going through now, please do not think that an LDR can be all love and smooth-sailing. If that's the impression my post gave you, I'm sorry. It's tough and gruelling and it's definitely not meant to be easy. You'll miss the person. You'll quarrel because you both miss each other and neither of you are willing to set aside your fucking pride long enough to be the first to admit it. And you'll wish it could be different. You'll wish you could have a "perfect" LDR. But there's no such thing as that. Irina and I definitely don't have that, but we make do with what we have. So make do with what we have and in times of doubt, don't use other relationships as a yardstick to judge how your LDR is going; it will only make you bitter and things more difficult. Just remember that all things come to an end. The eight hour time gap, where she's waking up and I'm just falling asleep, with one day close as my plane finally crests the Singapore horizon. Be strong, if not for yourself, but for your partner. 

Busy with work but just had to clarify things,
Yi Ming

P.S Greetings from us!


  1. Hi :)
    I think many of us cheer you on because it gives up hope that LDRs are not the end of relationships. It's funny because I for one didn't think that rooting for you two meant putting pressure on you. For me, it was merely a burst of happiness because I was glad that Irina had someone there for her. However, I guess after you bring it up, it makes sense.

    Anyways, the real question I have is more on the girly side (!) and directed to Irina. Whenever you have time, I would love it if you could do a quick tutorial or post about your hair routine. I recently got it cut to a similar length as yours and it feels terribly awkward for me. It either lies too flat or poufs like a balloon (for the lack of a better word). I know you're really busy with school so it's just a small suggestion from me. Thank you C:


    1. Hi Em!!! Don't take it the wrong way, Yi Ming was just voicing out what we thought about the whole experience :-) AND YES! I'll try to do a tutorial on that when I'm done with this hell week ok? No promises but I try..... :-) did you also happen to get your hair done at Essensuals bugis? Cause if you did, they wouldn't mind teaching you how to style your hair for free! Meanwhile, stay tuned! HAVE A LOVELY WEEK AHEAD!!

    2. Hi :D I freaked out just a little today when I saw your reply. I think I came off a little serious in my reply but it was more to give you (and Yi Ming) my reasons for being overly enthusiastic.
      THANK YOU!! I'm in no hurry so just whenever you have time :3 Actually I didn't get my hair done at Essensuals Bugis because I live halfway across the globe and I've never been to Singapore before. Your bubbliness made my day :D

  2. Y to hair tutorial :) love your hair it's so casual yet stylish

  3. Hi could you come up with a blogpost on how you and yiming met? you guys look sooooo good together!