Was having a chat with a friend. A casual conversation turned serious, and I just have to share it. It's not easy to have someone who appreciate the way I see things, so I find it easy to confide and continue churning, till I have this whole chunk.
Friend: I've been thinking is it really worth being nice? If it is, why is it that guys and girls are always doing all sorts of funny things in club?
Me: Yeah I have no idea either. In Singapore, where else do you go to meet people? Even the nice people resort going to club, hoping they'd meet people who're there for the same reason. But what are the odds seriously. It's all just so confusing. Why do we have to stoop to such level just to feel wanted? To fill that void. Why can't we be stronger? This generation. Everyone. Why can't we be more... idk? Not so blinded by things. Why do we go through all this unnecessary process of sufferings? Why do you hurt people you claim to love? No wonder they say common sense is rare these days.
And to me, honestly I see club as a symbol of affirmation in Singapore to everyone that "hey there's still possibly someone out there who wants you." You feel good being hit on. You feel good being acknowledged. You feel good dancing with someone you don't even know. You feel good that you're acknowledged with simply your looks. You feel good feeling wanted. It's all an act to elevate our self-esteem. Are we that pathetic, guys? I wish I don't have to fall into this category. I am trying to seek comfort somewhere, and someone has to come up with an alternative soon for people to release these pent-up feelings inside; somewhere to feel good about themselves. Healthier activities seriously!!
I always appreciate seeing old couples, especially my grandparents'. Though grandpa is no longer around, I'll never forget what a gentlemen he was. Their marriage was arranged. Why is that they can learn to compromise and adapt at such a young age and we have to complicate things? We are taking things for granted, aren't we? Of course, my grandparents had their bad times just like any other normal couples today. It's normal. It's how they emerged after. They were left with no choice and freedom to fall in love, unlike us. Just like how we can't choose our parents. It's all planned, yet they were so ready to love. Why are we being choosy beings right now, find everything to be not good enough?
History, stories and legends are important. They exist for a reason. They exist for us, the younger generation, to educate us of what used to be possible.
I hope I make sense to you guys.
Goodnight.
This post makes sense Irina. I share the same sentiments as you from time to time. I hate how we, this generation, perceive certain things. We seek comfort in too many wrong things.
ReplyDelete"We seem comfort in too many wrong things." Love the expression.
DeleteAnd it's true that isn't easy to find true love nowadays, especially when everything is materialistic,
ReplyDeleteIKR! It's funny how I'm still getting used to Singapore girls' criteria in looking for boyfriends: drives, rich, blabla
DeleteFeel like bursting with all these... Nonsense, lying around. :(
ReplyDeleteDon't burst just yet. Good things come to those who wait. We'll just hang in there :-)
DeleteIrina, you too hang in there! I guess people are just too discontented on the whole, and that's the reason why people keep searching endlessly for what is 'perfect', and since perfection can't be achieved, people settle closest to perfection. Cheer up irina! It will all be well eventually, yes!
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